Few events in a relationship can be as devastating and confusing as infidelity. It can take shape in a variety of ways and forms, be in person, or online. The betrayal can be physical, emotional, or both.
The betrayed partner often feels shock, anger, helplessness and sorrow. Shattered trust paralyzes your routine. It is common to have intrusive thoughts about what happened, why it happened, and how much has been a lie. It is also typical to wonder if there is a future in which you stay together, alternating frequently between yes and no.
The betrayer who wants reconciliation often feels lost, hopeless, without a path, and sometimes frustrated in their attempts to reconcile.
The aftermath of an affair is complex and almost always requires an experienced therapist as a guide; someone familiar with common questions and pitfalls: Do we talk about the affair? How do we talk about it? What questions are ok, and which will do more harm than good? How do we rebuild?
Healing after an affair starts with honesty, transparency, handling conflicts in a healthy way, and taking concrete steps to rekindling the relationship. There is hope for those committed to reconciliation, rebuilding trust, and starting the next phase of your relationship.
In person meetings are recommended for couples in crisis. Initial meetings may require an additional half or full session.